Forgiveness

To Forgive or not to forgive
that is the question:

Think about what hate has done to you and is still doing to humanity worldwide. Continuing to carry around and reopen wounds given us by others is taking a toll on our health in ways people don’t realize.

Take for example lost love, whether though divorce, death or innumerable other pathways; as humans we react to this situation and our reaction takes on many forms of illness. Illness can manifest itself in sleepless nights, migraines, asthma, or esophageal spasm the list is huge. Many suffer a general listlessness or slip into depression, not caring whether they continue on living on this planet while they spiral deeper into a black hole of despair.

When we have been hurt deeply our ability to replay the events in our mind can be amazing and vary from a few times a day to a number we wouldn’t believe if it were counted and told to us. Therefore to bring us around to a state of well being forgiveness is essential. Through my own experience and through the conversations with many of the experts I have talked to and worked with over the years a definite distinction must be told to you. Forgiveness does not mean you accept the damage dealt to you. It means, separate the act or trauma from yourself and pull it away from you and hold it at arms length, ready to let it go. Think about the person who hurt you and find one good thing about them and focus on that sometimes this takes awhile. Perhaps they love horses, or maybe at one time, just once they may have been kind in some way. Elevate your feelings to that level of compassion. The very moment you feel free from anger, hurt, despair and hate say, “I forgive you.” and really mean it!

Forgiveness is for you:

Remember forgiveness is in our favor; even though their trespass(s) against you are “unforgivable” bring yourself to forgive anyway. Forgiving doesn’t mean you now need to go to lunch or exchange greeting cards or allow them to do it again. Forgiveness means you are taking yourself from the dark depths of despair to soar in the sunlight of a new and profound happiness and remember you are forgiving so you can be free.

Small steps, long journey:

Don’t worry if you cannot forgive all at once. Just forgive again and possibly again a little more each time until forgiveness is complete and you feel a great weight lift from your heart. There are many fantastic books available addressing forgiveness try as many different concepts or philosophies as possible taking the helpful bits of each to help guide you on your journey.

I personally can tell you, as I continue this process myself, I am learning that different points of view allow the whole picture of forgiveness to come slowly into focus. With constant practice and determination I know we can surprise ourselves. For once we learn to forgive others we can start to forgive ourselves and then the whole world becomes a lot lighter.

The above article is from my own life’s trails and tribulations. I hope now you will be inspired to start to forgive and find compassion through forgiveness and forgiveness through compassion!

Health and happiness are truly best friends; invite them into your life! Investigate alternative health and ideas. Check each new issue of The National Networker magazine for inspiration to blossom and thrive.

Health & Wellness Editor
Louise Flodin

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